~Listening~

This is a very effective tool to use when "learning" how to actively communicate with your partner. Perhaps take a moment ... and read this to one another with absolutely no interruptions. Respect each others time ... and most certainly, Smile ...

 "Cause, You might be on Camera";) 

"When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice, you have not done what i asked."

"When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me that I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling my feelings."

"When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me again,"

"Listen! All I asked was that you listen, not talk or do --- just hear me!

"Advice is cheap.  For the cost of a newspaper, I can read "Dear Abby."  And I can DO for myself.  I am not helpless.  Maybe discouraged and stumbling, but not helpless."

"When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you add to my fear and inadequacy,"

"But, when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and get about the business of understanding what's behind your feelings.  And, when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice,"

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We are all resourceful, whole and complete. Trust in your partner. Change only you. For when we "change," the Universe will change around us.  

Let's Flourish Together ....